The Van Horne family’s life was full of uncertainty. Enslaved people always had to worry about the possibility of being sold away from their family members and friends or separated for long periods of time. The Van Hornes experienced family separation when Susan Niemcewicz travelled to New York City for extended visits with family. Niemcewicz believed that Sarah and Peter Van Horne’s labor was essential to her happiness but did not feel the same way about Robert, especially when he was a very young child. On more than one occasion, she bound Robert out to work with family friends in Elizabethtown and took his parents far away from him. This meant that she sent Robert to labor for someone else, while receiving pay for his work. Even temporarily, family separation was traumatic for parents and children. We do not know how this impacted Robert, but we do know from Niemcewicz’s letters that this was deeply distressing to his mother.
On one such occasion, when Robert was only 10, he became very ill when he was sent to live with Jane Dayton in Elizabethtown while his parents were brought to New York City. From the very beginning, Sarah Van Horne was worried about her son, first concerned that he had to experience extreme cold without her to care for him and later when he became very ill with the whooping cough. Even though Robert could have died, Niemcewicz was more concerned that he was not troublesome to the Daytons and chose to keep Sarah Van Horne with her instead of sending her to her son. If Sarah Van Horne had any consolation, though, it was the fact that he had larger family networks to care for Robert when she could not. His grandmother and two aunts lived locally and nursed him back to health. In the event of separation, enslaved parents and their children like the Van Hornes relied on larger community networks such as extended family and friends to keep their children safe and cared for.
So what were the Van Hornes like? We know that Sarah Van Horne was a loving mother who worried after her son. She was also felt pride for his achievements. Susan Niemcewicz once wrote that Sarah believed her son was “of great importance” (Susan Niemcewicz to Thomas Dayton, Feb. 2, 1832, Liberty Hall Collection, Kean University). Although this was written in a mocking tone, reading between the lines, we can learn how much Sarah Van Horne cared for her son and believed in his abilities.
We know less of Peter Van Horne because Niemcewicz did not mention him in her letters as frequently. Susan Niemcewicz and her family were frequently frustrated with Peter because he did not always listen to orders, may have stolen from his enslavers, and was “without moral principles” in their view (Sarah Sabina Morris Kean Baker to John Kean, June 17, 1833, Liberty Hall Collection, Kean University). From this, we can infer that Peter Van Horne valued independence and freedom. Although his enslavers considered his unwillingness to listen to commands to be a moral failing, it was more than likely that he was resisting his enslavement in smaller, less noticeable ways, like working slowly or poorly, a common strategy for enslaved people.
As for Robert Van Horne, we know that he had a loving mother, a father that taught him independence, and a community network of extended family. Even Susan Niemcewicz acknowledged that he was a smart child. Although he was made to labor, he had some opportunities for fun. We know that he had a pet dog and cat who he took care of and perhaps he also spent time with the Stout boys or made friends with other children living in the area.